Yes, Fathers Should Help
My mother says something to me often—she tells me how “lucky” I am to have such good kids, followed by how “lucky” I am to have a husband that helps out with the children.
If you’re a parent, you have a job. Everything else is secondary.
The best job.
I love being a mom. I also love to work, but even as I make this very statement, I find myself in an interesting position. By writing this admission down, it’s as if I consider the two things to be different—and I do.
Parenting is one thing, and sitting down to write is another. Which brings me to an interesting observation: most of us don’t consider parenting to be a job. As a mother of two, soon to be three, children, I can tell you that being a parent is a job—it’s the best job, and also the most difficult. It’s one where you can’t respond to emails and boil a pot of water at the same time, especially if you happen to be home alone with babes running wild, because those creatures are the most important beings in the world and their wellbeing is your responsibility. But they need to be provided for and so, we work—because parenting is relatively unpaid and even more unrecognized.
Whether you parent full-time or part-time, it is a career that requires the majority of your energy. You’re responsible for shaping minds, for creating humans that you hope will be good people (who can, hopefully, positively contribute to this world). So why is the task of parenting so overlooked? Parents can be great, but they can also be terrible (I won’t delve into the state of Canada’s social care system today), which is why I don’t understand why parenting is still considered to be such a menial undertaking. Canada has some great tax benefits, but women in the United States don’t usually get maternity leave, or are forced to leave their newborns in the care of others in order to return to a different kind of work. So how do we change such an ancient stigma? I’m working on some ideas…as soon as I put my children to bed.